Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day
Have you ever caught yourself replaying old decisions, thinking, "I should have done this" or "I could have done that"? Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day invites us to let go of these lingering regrets.
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Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day began with Martha J. Ross-Rodgers, a motivational speaker and author. She believed people often carry regret like heavy luggage.
To help others live more fully, she created a day that encourages letting go of guilt, second-guessing, and self-blame. Instead of replaying the past, the goal is to turn attention to what’s happening now. Her message is simple: move forward without dragging old mistakes behind you.
The day isn’t about ignoring what happened. It’s about recognizing that nothing changes by wishing things had gone differently.
That kind of thinking only slows progress. Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; it means learning, growing, and choosing to focus on what can still be done. This message has reached people across the country, and each year more choose to join in.
People from all walks of life have embraced this idea. It speaks to anyone who has ever stayed stuck on “what if.”
Martha picked a Saturday in July for this event, giving everyone a reason to pause mid-year and reflect. She hoped to help others find peace, purpose, and strength in moving ahead—not by changing the past, but by living better today.
Write and Release
Grab a pen and jot down lingering regrets on paper. Once written, tear or crumple the paper and discard it. This simple act symbolizes letting go of past burdens and making space for new beginnings.
Create a Vision Board
Assemble images and words that represent your aspirations and goals. Arrange them on a board or digital canvas. Place it somewhere visible to inspire daily motivation and forward-thinking.
Compose a Letter to Yourself
Write a compassionate letter addressing your past decisions. Offer forgiveness and understanding, as you would to a friend. Read it aloud to internalize the message and then keep it as a reminder of self-kindness.
Share Your Journey
Discuss your experiences with friends or family. Sharing can provide support and strengthen connections. Alternatively, express your reflections through art, music, or journaling to process emotions creatively.
Set New Intentions
Identify areas in your life you’d like to improve or change. Set achievable goals and outline steps to reach them. Focus on actionable plans that align with your current values and desires.